How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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Jun 10, 2019




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palmer491 12 hours ago
being self-conscious about your awkwardness = you give off sad, insecure vibes 😔👎🏾 being confident about your awkwardness = you give off positive, happy vibes 😉👍🏾
S. 5 days ago
I'm anxious and introvert and still want to be the center of attention, what does that make me (okay, usually alcohol is involved)
(((Only_ZuuL))) 8 days ago
dating is hard with depression and anxiety, because girl will decide NO within 30 seconds of meeting you and swipe left, no chance.
Najiyah Zalik
Najiyah Zalik 11 days ago
Charli d’amelio is an interesting subject! She’s shy but is great at interacting with people. And her rise to fame is fast but she adapts really well. Idk how she can interact with so many people and it looks like she’s really treating person actively
Azyra Fhugo
Azyra Fhugo 13 days ago
Ok, this is me an extrovert awkward beneath anxiety
Ravenly 23 days ago
My name is Maizie lol
Kristen Jones
Kristen Jones Month ago
She has the same energy as timothee and saorise
j4yla Month ago
do robert pattinson pleaseeee❤️❤️
Melanie Roselle
Melanie Roselle Month ago
please do robert pattinson
j4yla Month ago
yessss omg
A. H.
A. H. Month ago
Thank you. This was actually really helpful. Please do more on shyness and social anxiety.
Lilibeth Miranda
I want her to be my friend
Guilherme Becker
Wanna know how to TURN anxiety into charisma? Just call Sophie TURNER
Amira Sara
Amira Sara Month ago
But she isn’t shy at all😐😐
no one
no one Month ago
I bet she went to depression again because of dark phoenix.
Mariah Tashadia
Mariah Tashadia Month ago
Thanks for the tips !
Bree and Stephen
so kind of you to share this helpful info for free
naruto1993max Month ago
i eat clit to get over it
Daxy Lol
Daxy Lol Month ago
How come no one is talking about the thumbnail?? She legit looks like an 80s model.
Robert Lust
Robert Lust Month ago
Potus, my hookers James are charismas
sadz cat
sadz cat Month ago
I actually experienced this before. I was nervous on dates but my anxiety makes me talkative since I feel the need to fill the silence with interesting stories and I bring up anecdotes to relieve the stress. One guy I went on a date with assumed I was the social butterfly type and another person just said I was very charismatic. I guess it all works out in the end and fake it til you make it really works sometimes. Keep smiling and stay engaged and usually people are a lot more willing to talk about themselves when they feel welcomed and listened to.
Melted Diamon
Melted Diamon Month ago
It's basically what Ryan Reynolds does hehe it's cool and adorable
Rowan Mathers
Rowan Mathers Month ago
Very helpful in many aspects!
Rudy Davalos
Rudy Davalos Month ago
Its not a strategy, its her personality. She's just being herself and completely engaging in the moment. It takes practice, you have to get out there and interact with people even if it feels like you want to crawl out of your skin.
Aubrey Morgan
Aubrey Morgan Month ago
I'm loving these, thank you. I am an introvert and anxiety, depression, and self worth issues. i end up being that akward person that people kinda like but at the same time kinda creepy...so..thanks for the help.
Ravens Gypsy Living
Ravens Gypsy Living 2 months ago
Hi, how are you? I seriously hate humans
Purpleoceangnome 2 months ago
Its naturally cheecky.
666cherub 2 months ago
I need to learn how to mirror people better, 🤔 I need better connection w my body🌀 Cos all i do is TALK🙊🙊🙊🙊
Kelly Pajares
Kelly Pajares 2 months ago
As a therapist, I use your channel all the time. Thank you!
Chelsea Irving
Chelsea Irving 2 months ago
Mirroring is a big indicator of female autism
Hannia Corena
Hannia Corena 2 months ago
Loved it!
Ultravioleta Lightcaster
This makes me feel so much better about being me
•minnie •
•minnie • 2 months ago
Worst question: “what have you been up to lately?”
Jana 2 months ago
I’m always shy and clumsy in social interaction but I noticed that making jokes about that helps a lot.
justdrea 2 months ago
this called me out so hard
ismalaz 2 months ago
imagine being so nice people make videos about it
lisa gaeta
lisa gaeta 2 months ago
I don’t understand how you can be shy and be an actor with camera’s on you, having to speak out onscreen and interviews.
Sanbika 2 months ago
Being a terrible liar is one of the finest qualities a KIND person can have.
Jay diddy
Jay diddy 2 months ago
She has burst of charisma or energy to distract the Nervousness she is clearly feeling, because in those moments she isnt scared, she isnt nervous, those are her true reactions, personal reactions coming out! ❤️❤️❤️
sunflower vol.6
sunflower vol.6 2 months ago
Hey you didn't look for this, did you?
Bella S
Bella S 2 months ago
Ok I got #4 in the baaag
Jaime Laffoon
Jaime Laffoon 2 months ago
This is masking
Mutable Air
Mutable Air 2 months ago
studying acting really made me a better communicator; making eye contact, active listening etc
Genesis Ansbro
Genesis Ansbro 2 months ago
I have the worst poker face... I’m a terrible liar. I feel like I just saw myself in this video.
Samantha 2 months ago
Ahhh, got it. So cater to other people's egos.
Gabrielle Fowler
Gabrielle Fowler 2 months ago
I’m so glad to hear that I can have bursts of energy while being normally reserved. I’m concerned it comes off as off-putting or not genuine.
That One Femme
That One Femme 2 months ago
“Start by being vulnerable and open” My mental disorders and unresolved trauma: *it’s my time to shine*
Bethany Burns
Bethany Burns 2 months ago
Love the plug for CBT!
Loulou Benetton
Loulou Benetton 3 months ago
There are people who are really psychos whose gonna trap you in every conversation to show they are above you... Your only defense at that insta-moment is a cold passive attitude towards your verbal attacker... You have the right to remain silence no matter what provocative questions he/she wants you to get engage into. Always be in a cool posture. Dont raise your voice. Set it on level tone and volume. Never use sorry. Give no facial expression. Show whose the agressive ONE in TV and viewers won't forget it. Believe me on this social-behaviour experiment... I f you are pressed to answer questions say this : "you want me to answer that, the way you want to hear it" .. or say... "what can I say? No answer of mine would satisfy you be it the way you want to hear it - as your conviction has been made before this interview has started" dont add more. If she pressed you say "I did I've answered it"
Jesus is the Way the Truth the LIFE
I wanna see her RED HAIR 🥀🌶️
nat 3 months ago
why did joseph gordon levitt go to shake that person's hand like that?? lmao
silver hour
silver hour 3 months ago
I see Sophie Turner, I click
Cxx Anonymous
Cxx Anonymous 3 months ago
She is not shy
Nicholas Cheap
Nicholas Cheap 3 months ago
What’s up
Nicholas Cheap
Nicholas Cheap 3 months ago
Carolina Lima
Carolina Lima 3 months ago
I’m watching this a year later and I feel like I’ve actually absorbed and practiced these?? I’m way better today for sure
ether.x 3 months ago
I tried to dislike Sophie because my ex boyfriend was really thirsty for her but it was so hard because of her charisma
sims2lovealot 3 months ago
It helps when you're naturally gorgeous and have perfect hair and wardrobe. So I just need to get a personal stylist and then I can start trying to put all this into action.
Ithinkiamgoing Crazy
Me with severe social anxiety: 👁👄👁
Julia 3 months ago
Am I the only one who hates when other people repeat my last words? I mean it's ok if you do it sometimes but like in these clips... it drives me crazy😅
JX X 3 months ago
After so many videos about confident strong men, finally a video about... um... insecurity of women.... how about Meryl Streep in the next video
cd2189 3 months ago
Active listening is hard
KC Vegana
KC Vegana 4 months ago
She's a doll ❤
Adrianne Ross
Adrianne Ross 4 months ago
2:46 was that clip used on purpose..because it always looks like he’s hiding something.. Such as a frog in his mouth
Adrianne Ross
Adrianne Ross 4 months ago
2:15 and sometimes that bathfulnish can even crosh over
Mrs Kay
Mrs Kay 4 months ago
I dont even know why I'm watching this.....I never talk to anyone in real life 😄😄
Green Curtain
Green Curtain 4 months ago
How to turn vulnerability to charisma: First off, you gotta be at least 10/10.
Harry TM
Harry TM 4 months ago
If she has social anxiety then I am not even born.
AJae 4 months ago
I'll just stick to Xanax
Jake Hartman
Jake Hartman 4 months ago
all celebrities r fake or reptiles or robots
Pace D'Angelo
Pace D'Angelo 4 months ago
jelly72 4 months ago
Step one: be attractive
Gi Gi
Gi Gi 4 months ago
Step 2: be attractive
aztec.dragon 4 months ago
For the people here with things like GAD, OCD, or basically whatever else, this is about general worry. The disorders are different. Though, these tips aren't necessarily useless, but will be harder to accomplish because your body/brain fights you.
idoj654123 4 months ago
I love Sophie, but she is definitely a million times better as a redhead.
Madara Katrīna
Madara Katrīna 4 months ago
that part at 3:23 just absolutely melted me.....❤👋😶my heart, ma'am, take it it's yours
Aanya Prasad
Aanya Prasad 4 months ago
I'm about to be charismatic as heckkk B)
WhyUgot2doThat ?
WhyUgot2doThat ? 5 months ago
Ahhhhhhhhh! I feel like I’m a psychopath taking lessons on how to fake my association to the world! Learn this! Be like this! However, really be like this, but still.... be yourself. What the frack?! Fuuuuuuuuuhcccck
lis4 5 months ago
She looks freaking gorgeous in that red dress daym!
Lisa Wadhams
Lisa Wadhams 5 months ago
It helps her that she is beautiful. Try being like this and not being pretty
Alice Pikachu
Alice Pikachu 5 months ago
I can tell that she’s not faking and she’s just a very nice person
Thorstn Böhle
Thorstn Böhle 5 months ago
now I have a crush on her
Anne Neville
Anne Neville 5 months ago
It’s easy said but it’s soooo difficult in reality >.< especially with social anxiety
John Hooper
John Hooper 6 months ago
Nahh.. she is just a covert narc playing the shy girl..
Yes 6 months ago
anxiety isn’t shyness
Lindsey Palmer
Lindsey Palmer 6 months ago
I enjoyed this video. My first time watching a video fr this channel.
High Society CW
High Society CW 6 months ago
She’s very much like Sansaa
Jungle Ho Sock
Jungle Ho Sock 6 months ago
Timothee chalamet is the best example
kittypie 6 months ago
Me right now: memorizing these tips, rehearsing in my head Me tomorrow at work: "how do you do fellow kids?"
Jaqueline V.
Jaqueline V. 6 months ago
I 100% agree with the self deprecating jokes
Bettina Orevil
Bettina Orevil 6 months ago
😆 I think I am already doing this and I have not been diagnosed with anxiety.
Internet Entity
Internet Entity 6 months ago
She's a girl. If a man acts like this he is getting destroyed by everyone.
Priyanka Shankholia
Priyanka Shankholia 6 months ago
Nowadays getting depressed is so easy right...its not fair for people who actively are suffering from mental illness
Honey Rajput
Honey Rajput 7 months ago
Okay at 2:36 I felt that idk why
That Brinch
That Brinch 7 months ago
That Brinch
That Brinch 7 months ago
I had no idea who she was but now I love her just because of this video
Chloe Barneveld
Chloe Barneveld 7 months ago
I do thiss thank god I am doing it right
Mia Carrera
Mia Carrera 7 months ago
It makes me anxious when other people mirror me. Because some do it to ridicule or destabilize you and you cannot always tell/
Lifeless web user
Lifeless web user 7 months ago
No way, that's pathetic. I don't want no pity respect.
Viv1d 7 months ago
Step one: be attractive
Reality Check
Reality Check 7 months ago
I highly doubt she is shy or has depression. Not when you are loved by millions of people that don't even know you. It's just something celebrities do to make themselves seem "empathetic" and "relatable."
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