How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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Jun 10, 2019

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Galliano Marr
Galliano Marr 10 hours ago
Repetition and mirroring is so cool
Erikson Dos Santos
Erikson Dos Santos 10 hours ago
The fact that we're similar, Sophie and I, makes me want to actually start watching Game of Thrones.
She's in the Rain
I’m not sure if this is going to work for me. I’d overthinking the whole situation every time enough to lose track of what I was trying to do in the first place.
Timtomtann 3 days ago
You should do a variation where it’s group settings where you’re not being directly asked questions but have to actively participate
seuny 5 days ago
All this highlights how great Sophie is handling anxiety in the media. Any actual actionable steps......, it's cute to repeat someone on a 5 min segment when there's a camera but in a social setting I can't imagine people not giving me an even stranger look.
Jake 5 days ago
You should do a video on how Bryan Callen makes other comedians funnier
Magique John-stoned
Can you do Kawhi Leonard? I mean, if you know him of course.
Sabrina 5 days ago
Why was this literally in the secrets of a highly effective teenager book?
Stephen Ray
Stephen Ray 6 days ago
Do a video on Eric Andre
hardToSignUpHere 7 days ago
Trying to see a clip that could actually confirm that she is shy
Love your videos man. But famous people aren't good examples. If your famous people are automatically going to like you because subconsciously they realize everyone else likes you. 99% of people are followers. If these people did the same thing but weren't famous, they wouldn't get near as much recognition.
JKroni171 7 days ago
I just discovered your channel and I really enjoy your content, it really talks to me. I usually don't even write comments, but right now I feel confident to do so. Thank you :)
Ghizlane Ben
Ghizlane Ben 7 days ago
I don’t think anyone who ACTUALLY has anxiety can be an actor or do half the things Sophie’s done.
Michael Ferrini
Michael Ferrini 8 days ago
You should do one on logic especially when he had an anxiety attack during an interview
Samuel Bloom
Samuel Bloom 8 days ago
How can I read someone who has gotten very good at hiding there emotions and is afraid to show them to anyone because they're an anxious type
Insh Un
Insh Un 8 days ago
downgrading yourself and making people feel good about themselves is not a charisma. it's just about being likable. clickbait much.
Video:How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma Me: Great! This is just what I needed. You're done for now, anxiety! Video: You'll need high energy Anxiety: Hey depression, wanna help me out here? Depression: Here's barely enough energy to get out of bed without falling to the floor Anxiety: Yay teamwork!
Zara Fatima
Zara Fatima 9 days ago
Thèse videos seem to be made for me
Lethal Beauty
Lethal Beauty 9 days ago
Sophie Turner looks like a blond version of Shailene Woodley
erwin coplo
erwin coplo 10 days ago
If i would mirroring people they will kill me eventually
sooa loves jisung
sooa loves jisung 10 days ago
ugh i love her :')
Merrick BATMAN McFarling
2:31 “the biggest movie; dark Phoenix” BAWAGAHAHAGAHAHA WHAT
Insh Un
Insh Un 8 days ago
it's not as successful as other x-men movies but still a big one.
ZayaJ 10 days ago
An attempt to make Sophie feel even more important 🤷‍♂️
peldon marsh
peldon marsh 10 days ago
You're missing the key point; traits like vulnerability and admitting to butterflies in your stomach and depression and expressing emotions are charismatic in women and off putting in men in most situations. Maybe in Hollywood or rich circles of large cities this isn't the case, but that's terrible advice for the awkward construction or restaurant worker
Light 11 days ago
Next video: "How to turn dying into charisma"
Yandipetal 11 days ago
I needed this
Irian G.A.
Irian G.A. 11 days ago
Please please please. Anyone reading this, go get yourself a copy of Feeling Good. It is an absolute game changer.
Ayara 81
Ayara 81 12 days ago
Those Will Smith dance moves were sensational! 🤣
aurel 12 days ago
Can you do Aubrey Plaza?
ikid8810 12 days ago
Dude you are freaking awesome! Your content has seriously changed my life and i am extremely grateful!
Charisma on Command
~ Happy to hear our content is making a positive impact. :-)
Winter is coming
Winter is coming 12 days ago
I'm just an Alien trying to be human.
Ariadne 12 days ago
Me, still having ASD and too much social anxiety to apply simple techniques: presenting "how to turn charisma into anxiety"
Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt 13 days ago
Sophie is a typical pisces
Voile Noire
Voile Noire 13 days ago
Do what be hot?
TH3MS 13 days ago
she uses the same "ironic" and somewhat sarcastic extreme expressions Keanu Reeves uses. Because unless you fullheardly feel how you express you end up sounding fake. But, doing it this way you can get away with expressing yourself and at the same time sound legit. Since, you aren't actually bullshitting anyone because you express both energy and half half seriousness about the hole thing, which in these cases actually is alot closer to how you actually feel about the hole thing than it would by expressing it in a fakey energetic way.
borri byunambomba
borri byunambomba 13 days ago
Turn anxiety to charismatic Being sloth
DahrkMezalf 13 days ago
I absolutely love your videos. I feel like I drew the lucky card when it comes to understanding social interactions, but I see far too often people who aren't comfortable with themselves or can't read an audience to save their life. Especially in a world that emphasizes digital communication over verbal, it's great that y'all are here to help!
Joshua Savage
Joshua Savage 13 days ago
I wish she wouldn't have ruined xmen
NBD null
NBD null 14 days ago
The Vex
The Vex 14 days ago
Anyone else Anxious watching this?
Granger Lodestar
Granger Lodestar 14 days ago
I wanna be an actor, but the thought of it makes me shake and retreat to my happy corner, shutting myself off from the world and just...observing. I don't think I'll even do this correctly (what you explained in the video). One of my biggest fears is failure. I don't like the feeling of being embarrassed.
Granger Lodestar
Granger Lodestar 7 days ago
@MC Sorry same
MC Sorry
MC Sorry 7 days ago
I hate that feeling because I know the cure IS IN failure. It's like having to put yourself out there in order to get used to it. That thought alone terrifies me.
Swirlyapples 14 days ago
She’s a Pisces... it makes sense. I’m an Aries AND a Pisces and it’s very contradicting emotions I go through. On one side I can be very bold and direct and on another side I can easily become shy and withdrawn. Now with these defaults, being aware of them and constantly working on bettering yourself is what can cause for a healthy change of a better you to come about.
Ojeans 14 days ago
How to clickbait people into watching a doc about sophia whatever
Carmen Camden
Carmen Camden 14 days ago
This taught me A LOT about myself, and now that I can identify things I can work on changing them and improving my life through-out. Thank You! I'm having trouble identifying a related issue... I feel like I do fine when I'm approached and spoken to first, like; I can engage in a one-on-one conversation pretty well actually, even doing my part in keeping it continuous, but I'm absolutely paralyzed at initiating or speaking/being within groups. But my biggest concern is it feels like NO ONE wants to approach me, and I just don't know why. I have felt this for as long as I can remember, throughout high school, through out college days, young adult and still. I've tried to observe and reflect on my actions and reactions, but I'm not fully understanding where it's coming from. Maybe it's my insecurities, nervousness, shyness, MASSIVE eyes that's just hollering out every anxious emotion I have, maybe it's because I've experienced all this in a weird ass, hyper-judgemental & hyper-critical, small town, maybe it's the fact that I kind of like being laid back and observant and prefer an actual connection and stimulating topics over the need to gab incessantly, and I've heard maybe I'm intimidating? I just don't understand. /: if there's a video you've made about about the things we subconsciously do that repel people, orr anything that could help a link, a kind tip would be much appreciated ❤
The Noobest Girl
The Noobest Girl 15 days ago
Sophie is a legend
Levi Levi
Levi Levi 15 days ago
Easier said than done
Sofia Kalaidopoulou
We only need ONE friend
Vincent Burger
Vincent Burger 15 days ago
For my social anxiety disorder, working with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy didn't work at all. If it does for others, that's great, definitely keep using it. The only thing I've found that actually makes a permanent impact on it is to find areas of my life (mostly past experiences, for me) that create shame and to work through those. Radical self-acceptance and all that stuff.
House of farts
House of farts 15 days ago
1 active vulnerability and knowing how to handle convos 2 mirroring 3 elaborate on someones idea 4 make fun of your own shyness
CodeCommand 15 days ago
this is too complicated for an autist like me lol
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